Monday, July 15, 2013

What I Told My Son about Trayvon Martin ...

I shared the same sentiment as many upon hearing the verdict in the Trayvon Martin trial. But the fact that I'm a Mommy adds an entirely different dynamic as well as a different perspective particularly as it relates to being a black Mother to a 7 yr. old black son.

I primarily used Twitter as a platform to vent. But I also took to FB and posted the following:

Status Update
By Erin A. Martin
I hugged each of my ❤'s tonite before tucking them in but my son particularly tight tonite and cried him to sleep as I explained to him what this all meant and why my heart aches. It's unfathomable. The verdict did not surprise me in the least. I just prayed for a different outcome, for this time to be different.

But my response to my son, "God has got this." I explained to him that he didn't need to walk in fear however he needs to always be alert and aware. I explained that Trayvon Martin did nothing wrong and that George Zimmerman made an extremely poor choice. I learned per a "special edition" Mommy Midday segment featuring NBC Today Show contributor, Dr. Argie Allen that I aired in light of the Boston Marathon bombing regarding talking tragedy with your kids, that my tone and body language as a Parent is everything when it comes to how my children process events such as this. How I act will dictate how they act. As distraught as I was/am about the verdict, I didn't project anger although I was totally up front with my son regarding why it hurt and how I would never want anything like that to happen to him. My daughter even posed the question of which I tweeted:
Do you have kids? How did you address or what did you say to your children? Please share your thoughts and insight.

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